I don’t like everybody

I don’t pretend to like everybody. I only have a soft spot for individuals who prove likable. To me, the “liking process” is similar to trying out a new product; you buy, you like, you keep.
Or, you buy, you don’t like, and you avoid it. Does that make me a bad person?

Discrimination

After the George Floyd tragedy, there has been an outpouring of brotherly love, and that’s good. But let’s face it, everybody is not likable. Some people are stinkers… and ethnicity has nothing to do with it. In every ethnic group, you will find a bad, a good and an ugly individual… and you will make a choice. In effect, you will discriminate against somebody…

In my book, to be liked, you have to prove likable.
And I just read a short essay dealing with this subject. This piece by Tara Blair Ball is titled “5 Non-Physical Qualities Men Find the Most Attractive in Women.” I don’t think that these qualities apply only to women. It applies to everybody.

The author enumerates 5 reasons that make somebody likable.
First of all, you need to look happy. It is not always easy, but nobody is attracted by a grouchy person.
Then, having a sense of humor is important. Because laughing is contagious and it is a good way to establish a bridge to the other side.
Be nice. Nicety is a reciprocal quality. If you are nice to somebody, this person cannot be mean to you.
Be natural. Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be what you are not.
And finally, take care of yourself. To be happy, spoil yourself a little. If nobody brings you flowers, buy some.

This long preamble to say that if you discriminate against some people, it is not necessarily based on skin color. As a “Caucasian” there are millions of white people that I dislike and discriminate against. There are also millions of yellow, brown, black, and green people that I find unsavory and try to avoid.

Even though I don’t know any Japanese people, after watching a little program on YouTube called “Asian Boss” I realized that I like them. Of course, I would not like them all, but the little I know about them, makes them likable to me.
By the same token, I like women… but not all women. Does that make me a misogynist?

We all make choices, but they are not all motivated by race. Before blaming anybody, look honestly at yourself and try to figure out if there are any reasons why some people don’t like you. You might be surprised…

Alain