Today the world is full of euphemisms.
For instance, “we are dating” is a nuanced way of saying “we are fornicating regularly”. Nothing wrong with that, considering what a minefield and how traumatic dating really is.
Before actually dating, you have got to find a willing guinea pig. Not easy, unless you are genetically blessed, or unless Bill Gates happens to be a close relative.
For most of us, finding a date is more like looking for truffles. Constant digging, with little to show for your efforts. And you never know who you will have to entertain next… Because in the animal world, a male has to entertain a female before having his way with her.
It is part of the contract that was drawn a long time ago between Adam and Eve. Show me a good time said Eve, and I’ll let you look at my bazoombas.
If you have no special talent though, it’s going to be an uphill battle.
And you have to divide dating in two very distinctive categories. There is the “strictly for screwing” dating and the “finding a life partner” category.
Dating often starts on the wrong footing. The guy looking for a little “mano a mano” with the opposite sex, ends up dating a girl looking for the father of her future brood, or vice versa. Not a good match.
The chances of meeting a compatible mate are astronomically small. You would have to be insanely lucky to stumble upon a girl who likes Swedish movies, Tibetan food, Japanese massages, and tantric sex as much as you do. That’s why cyberspace is the smart way to go when it comes to mating.
You first describe yourself (as impartially as possible), present your credentials, and then state what you are looking for.
“Good looking stud, looking for a generously endowed slut, for meaningless sexual afternoon encounters”.
You cannot go wrong with an ad like this. You are being yourself and laying everything on the table without wasting any time finessing the issue of sex.
If on the other hand, your ad reads like “Artistically inclined young man, looking for young Mormon lady who appreciates refined dining, classical music and Italian Renaissance paintings” chances are that you won’t end up with the well-endowed slut.
Actually, I am sure that thousands of well-endowed sluts appreciate refined dining and classical music… But that’s beside the point.
My perception is that “chance” dating has gone the way of the dinosaurs.
You are better off comparing your objectives with your potential date before starting your campaign. If your stated goal (the motel around the corner) doesn’t coincide with those of the woman you are wooing, go back to the Internet and be a little more specific about your intentions.
The well-endowed Mormon lady is out there, looking for you…