The toll of loneliness

“What should young people do with their lives today? Many things, obviously. But the most daring thing is to create stable communities in which the terrible disease of loneliness can be cured.” Kurt Vonnegut

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It seems that in America, mass shootings are becoming an almost ordinary occurrence.
After such an incident people express grief, shed tears, hold memorials, say prayers, make heartfelt speeches and… fatalistically wait for the next massacre to occur.

Tightly controlling the sale of guns (a measure strenuously opposed by the GOP) would be an obvious way to curb that scourge, but eradicating loneliness would also be another way to limit the carnage.
Because lonely people (consciously or unconsciously) are angry, resentful, and these alienated individuals are irrational, dangerous human beings.
Most of the shootings are perpetrated by disaffected loners.

Anger is a manifestation of a deeper issue… and that, for me, is based on insecurity, self-esteem and loneliness. Naomi Campbell

In our age of effortless, instant communication, isolation is paradoxically the most virulent disease. And you don’t have to be old to be lonely. Loneliness strikes indiscriminately young and old, blacks and whites, poor and wealthy.

Version 2I recently met an enthusiastic young woman on the pétanque field.
Her name is Jenny and she piqued my interest when she mentioned that she was working on a project “to bring together different generations”.

Her undertaking meshes neatly with my own philosophy. I always believed that to remain in the game you need to mingle and interact with people of all ages and background. Jenny’s goal is as I understand it, to integrate different generations in a big happy melting pot.

We have a lot to learn from previous generations, and similarly seniors need to keep in touch with Milleniums in order to avoid becoming human flotsam.
If you don’t want to be classified and treated like a relic, you need to mingle and interact with younger folks.

Youth is impetuous. It often takes an older person to temper the impulsiveness of a hothead, but it also take a younger person to creatively think outside the envelope.

To sum it up we all need each other, and Jenny could be the linchpin who could in our own group bring about a solution to this modern predicament.

If you see that young lady on the field, don’t be a stuck-up geezer; approach her, talk to her and include her and her friends in all your activities.

Alain

Parting is such a sweet sorrow

Generally when there is a barbecue, there is a barbecue master (the guy with the oversize white hat) who provides and burns the meat.

But yesterday at La Pétanque Marinière, a different scenario took place. A barbecue grill was set all right, but instead of having a short order jockey singe the meat for you, it was BYOS (Bring Your Own Steak) and cook it yourself.

The formula seemed to appeal to a bunch of guys who gathered around the grill to exchange drivel and play Chef For a Day.
A potluck table was also set with guests contributing various dishes to be shared by all.
I recognize that our party was no Woodstock but about 30 faithful still came to partake in our little get-together.

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From Sonoma we got Ed Porto, Frank Pipal, Dave Riffo (who by the way is leaving sunny California to settle in not so sunny Oregon) Joe la Torre and Rob Everett.

From La Pétanque Marinière, Henry and Calvert, Charlie and Liv, Alain and Evelyne Marchand, Jacques Gautier, Christine and Larry Cragg, Minou and Minette Etallaz, Noel Marcovecchio, Brigitte and Herb Moran, Bart Zachofsky.
Who am I forgetting?

Our party was graced by Colette Van der Meulen and her husband who temporarily decamped from their New Mexico digs to participate in our little “fête”. Colette was in good spirit and sported a new short haircut that suited her very well.

IMG_2176We were also pleased as punch to have Jenny, Kali and her mom Kit as guests. They came a little too late to play in our little tournament but later on they participated in a spirited game and it looks like they enjoyed it.
We certainly hope to see them on a regular basis.

The impromptu tournament was organized by Verena Rytter and Liv Kraft. Thank you ladies.

The following people signed up to play:

  1. Henry Wessel & Genevieve Etallaz
  2. David Riffo & Noel Marcovecchio
  3. Ed Porto & Colette Van der Meulen
  4. Jean-Claude Etallaz & Caitlin W.B
  5. Alain Efron & Calvert Barron
  6. Alain Marchand & Evelyne Marchand
  7. Frank Pipal & Robert Everett
  8. Joe la Torre & Charlie Davantes

Four leisurely relaxed games were played after lunch and around 5:00 pm the winners were crowned.

They were:

1st prize: Henry Wessel & Genevieve Etallaz      $46.00 ($23 ea)
2nd prize: Ed Porto & Colette Van der Meulen         $30.00 ($15 ea)
3rd prize: Alain Marchand & Evelyne Marchand       $22.00 ($11 ea)

Alain

PS: not too many pictures, but still a few (My Photos). Too busy schmoozing and exchanging vacation war stories with guests.

The splendor of Giverny

Impressionism: a style or movement in painting originating in France in the 1860s, characterized by a concern with depicting the visual impression of the moment, especially in terms of the shifting effect of light and color.”

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1920px-Claude_Monet_1899_Nadar_cropYou cannot talk about Impressionism without mentioning Claude Monet, and you cannot talk about Claude Monet without alluding to Giverny.

Giverny is a small town (50 miles Northwest of Paris) on the right bank of the Seine River, where Monet resided from 1883 until his death in 1926 and where he created a series of about 250 oil paintings called Nympheas (Water Lilies).

The name Impressionism by the way derives from a Monet painting named Impression, soleil levant (Impression, Sunrise) which incidentally was not well received by the critics. It strayed too much from the classicism favored by the very conservative French Académie des Beaux-Arts and was repeatedly refused entry to the prestigious Salon de Paris.

 Claude MonetPierre-Auguste RenoirAlfred Sisley, and Frédéric Bazille were at the forefront of the Impressionist Movement and fought hard to have their work recognized and exhibited.

Sensitive to public opinion, Emperor Napoleon III created the Salon des Refusés (Salon of the Refused) to allow the Impressionists to showcase their work.
Thousands of visitors flocked to the exhibit… and laughed their heads off. Critics and public alike unanimously ridiculed the show.
But the uproar created by this event helped to legitimize and empower this revolutionary form of art.

 If you harbor any cultural pretention, it would be unforgivable to visit Paris without calling on Giverny.

From the 1st of April to the 1st of November, more than 500,000 people each year visit Claude Monet’s house and garden AND incidentally an adjacent restaurant appropriately named Les Nymphéas.

Nothing but pictures can adequately describe the splendor of Monet’s garden in the spring.

Click on “My Photos” and judge for yourself.

Alain