“On average, women live longer than men. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the life expectancy for women in the United States is 79.3 years, compared to 73.5 years for men (as of 2022). This gap is consistent across most countries worldwide.”
It is a well-documented fact that, worldwide, there are more elderly widows than widowers. Interestingly, though, women often cope with the loss of a partner better than men. Why might this be?
In many relationships, some women may feel a sense of subservience or suppression, which can lead to a buildup of unfulfilled desires or ambitions. For some, the loss of their spouse, while painful, can also bring a sense of liberation—a chance to pursue interests and activities they previously set aside.
Additionally, women tend to have stronger social networks. This support system helps them navigate grief more effectively. Sisterhood, a shared sense of solidarity among women, has historically responded to societal challenges. As a result, women frequently maintain close friendships and emotional bonds that provide comfort during difficult times.
Recently, a significant number of our club members have passed away, leaving their wives facing emotional and practical challenges. Rather than succumbing to despair, these women have formed a semi-official group that gathers weekly at different locations to share games, food, and drinks. I deeply admire and support this initiative, which showcases their creativity and resilience.
Interestingly, this “sisterhood” appears more resourceful than what a “brotherhood” might achieve under similar circumstances. Men, in such situations, often suppress their emotions and tend to grieve privately. Their inclination to rely less on social connections can make the grieving process more isolating and challenging.
In contrast, women seem to instinctively understand the value of companionship during difficult times. They know there is strength and comfort in numbers, seeking solace in each other’s company. Isolation, as we know, is harmful to humans and can lead to an even earlier decline.
Women might not have the brawn, but they certainly have the brains to compensate.
“Widows are far better than brides. They don’t tell, they won’t yell, they don’t swell, they rarely smell, and they’re grateful as hell.” ~ Robert A. Heinlein
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