Schmoozing is an essential mental health activity—just as important, in my opinion, as sleeping or talking to a therapist. This is especially true when you’re retired and no longer have the daily interactions with peers that you once did.
First, let’s remember that “No man is an island.” Regardless of social status or wealth, everyone needs companionship. Humans are social creatures who thrive in the company of others. When deprived of this, they age and deteriorate more quickly.
Now, let me clarify what I mean by schmoozing. To me, schmoozing means “to converse informally, to chat in a friendly manner.” While Merriam-Webster adds that it is “especially to gain favor, business, or connections,” I must disagree with that. I don’t meet my friends to ask for favors. Like most people, I do it to share a few laughs and break the monotony of the passing time.
Almost every day, after spending a few hours at home, I usually go out for a coffee break. Sometimes I do this alone, and other times with people who share my odd sense of humor.
Have you ever noticed how dogs wag their tails when they meet in the street? That’s how I feel (and I believe most people feel) when we gather for a cup of coffee. It’s not what we say that matters; it’s the friendly spirit that animates us.
With conflicts and natural disasters making headlines daily, life can be extremely stressful. Without someone to share your concerns with, it can become unbearable.
During my stays at my regular coffee spot, I noticed a small group of four aging Caballeros. They meet every day to chat and “schmooze”. I think it’s an excellent and healthy habit—one I wouldn’t mind being part of such a group.
The conversations you have with your spouse or partner never have the same “laissez-faire” and “joie de vivre” as those you share with your friends.
When you talk to your spouse, you tend to measure your words and speak carefully. But when you’re chatting with your pals, you can shoot from the hip with total abandon—and it’s highly therapeutic.
This is why I recommend the “schmoozing solution” to all my friends. Schmoozing isn’t boozing, and unlike the latter, it won’t leave you with a hangover or an angry partner the next morning.
Let’s get together and schmooze!
Alain